Debsed & Confused (flower arranging in the 1980s) (randy_angel) wrote in s3duction,
Debsed & Confused (flower arranging in the 1980s)
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It's been a while kids...

Just a quicky (steady):

What do you do to ease the boredom when you're not getting any?
Also, what do you do in order to get some more, do you...
a) Casually sleep with anyone who takes your fancy?
b) Start up a relationship with anybody who's willing to go out with you?
c) Bide your time until you meet somebody you could potentially fall in love with?
I would also like to know the hows and whys of your answers.

Thank you very much for your time, as always, it's been a pleasure.
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No, it hasn't been a pleasure... yet.

I don't get bored. Even when I'm not getting any. Only boring people get bored.

I would casually sleep with a woman I found attractive as long as she seemed like she'd be a good lay. Seriously, some women are just not that good in bed. They're probably the ones who get bored all the time.
Ok, maybe "boredom" was the wrong word to use - how about frustration?

Are you saying that women who have high sex drives are bad in bed?
You're beautiful.


What do you do to ease the boredom when you're not getting any?


I go out and get a life. Seriously.

Also, what do you do in order to get some more, do you...
a) Casually sleep with anyone who takes your fancy?
b) Start up a relationship with anybody who's willing to go out with you?
c) Bide your time until you meet somebody you could potentially fall in love with?


"who's willing to"? Your mindset is unhelpful; You view woman as a prize that you're lucky to get. Turn that around; You're the prize and they are lucky if you're interested in them.
As I commented above - perhaps boredom was the wrong word to use. Try frustration or loneliness.

What I meant by option B was that some people aren't overly fussy about who they chose to go out with. They'd rather be in a relationship with somebody who they aren't that interested in than be single, so as soon as one relationship ends, they grab the nearest person. It was an option - I havn't said which of these is the path I walk! Which do you chose when you find yourself single?

And for the record, I'm not a lesbian. lol
Woops, sorry about that. I was reading/posting late and just blindly assumed male because of the group.

In the polyamory communities what you're referring to is often called serial monogamy. It's very common, albeit not particularly healthy.

A better option in my view for all is being upfront about the reality. Pre-mature commitment ruins many otherwise promising relationships. Don't let yourself feel that going out with Alan a couple times in any way makes it wrong to then go out with Bob and/or Dave. You can be "working on" many guys at once and frankly it's very helpful to do. It avoids the natural tendency to overly invest yourself in any one person too soon. You should let the guys know what's going on, both because it's the honest thing to do and because it'll make them more attracted to you when they see you have other options.

So there's no need to be overly fussy so long as you remember to keep it casual. When you're in a book store looking for something interesting to read do you pick based on just the cover, or do you pick the book up an read a chapter or two before you decide? There are a lot of incredibly interesting people in this world with rather bland covers...and a lot of really uninteresting people with very shiny covers. You're allowed to browse the store as much as you like before you decide to buy. You're allowed to go into the store just to look around (flirt) without any intention to buy.

You're young, cute, interesting, and apparently British so you probably have a sexy accent to boot. You've got tons of options; you are the prize.

If you lived in Hollywood (and could swing dance) I'd go for ya in NY minute. ;-)
"who's willing to"? Your mindset is unhelpful; You view woman as a prize that you're lucky to get. Turn that around; You're the prize and they are lucky if you're interested in them.

BTW, this still applies...just swap the gender. ;-)

"who's willing to"? Your mindset is unhelpful; You view men as a prize that you're lucky to get. Turn that around; You're the prize and they are lucky if you're interested in them.